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Annual review at 36


In one way or another, the number 36 has felt like a milestone birthday for a long time. As a tween, I imagined the glamorous autonomy that came with being 36 because I was hooked on watching the televised adventures of a foursome of privileged White women in Manhattan. Now, finally at 36, it feels important that I could’ve had a child as an adult who would now also be an adult. I say “adult” but we all remember the self-important idiots we were at 18.

I enjoyed reading Deschamps-Sonsino' annual review, so here’s mine.

1. What did you do in 2023 that you’d never done before?

Find belonging in a Christian community

2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I didn’t make any

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?


4. Did anyone close to you die?

AA’s father passed

5. What countries did you visit?

Germany, Denmark, Sweden, and Norway by Tesla in the Summertime

6. What would you like to have in 2024 that you lacked in 2023?

Headspace to see what is

7. What date from 2023 will remain etched upon your memory?

February 25

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Landing a job in my dream field: enterprise healthcare SaaS

9. What was your biggest failure?

Not walking enough

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Covid in early Winter

11. What was the best thing you bought?

A Polaroid camera

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

Sierra for opening Bar Bario, which I discovered this year

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Non-Jewish Americans hurling zionazism at Israeli pro-Palestinian protesters. I fear this war will be the end of us, but intellectually

14. Where did most of your money go?

To a YNAB category I call “🍱 Foreign Kitchens”

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?


16. What song/album will always remind you of 2023?

Mitski’s “Francis Forever”

17. Compared to this time last year, you are:

Better able to embrace all aspects of myself

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?


19. What do you wish you’d done less of?


20. How will you be spending the Winter holidays?

Enjoying the lack of commitments. Christmas Eve is a Jewish NYC tradition: best Chinese in town

21. Who did you spend the most time on the phone with?

Mary Elizabeth

22. Did you fall in love in 2023?

Yes, with a dog

23. What was your favorite TV program?

Literally can’t even remember — tells me something about how much time I spend watching forgettable things

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?


25. What was the best book(s) you read?

Naomi Klein’s Doppelgänger - also the only one I actually finished

26. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Marc Rebillet’s “Late to Work”, also the LoFi Pokémon playlist

27. What did you want and get?

A great new job

28. What did you want and not get?

A cute outfit for the dog

29. What were your favorite films of this year?

Godzilla Minus One, Talk To Me, and Past Lives

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

On my 36th birthday, I spent a guilt-free day going to the library, out for lunch, to Bar Bario, and to 101 Gowrie

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

More alone time

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2023?

Office lesbian / mountain lesbian

33. What kept you sane?

Making music

34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Philip Seymour Hoffman, as per usual

35. What political issue stirred you the most?

Dutch white people being so shocked at the election results

36. Who did you miss?


37. Who was the best new person you met?


38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2023.

Get out of your own way

39. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year?

(I’ll have to think about it)