• Watching the documentary “Spijtmoeders” (“Regret Mothers”) and wondering how many queer people regret parenthood.

  • Proclamation

    “Go into all the world and proclaim the good news to the whole creation. — Mark 16:15

    I said yes, but I had meant to say no.

    On occasion, Anja and I joke that, if circumstances required, I could even strike up a friendship with a traffic light. I never understood the challenge of meeting new people if it wasn’t at work or the gym. The vast majority of my friendships formed because I looked at someone across the room …

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  • Five recent UX uses for AI

    “Have you heard of Pi.ai?” my mentee Gabriela asked me during her mini internship at the office. She’s a clever woman; a newbie in the UX field with the technical resourcefulness of a Gen Z-er, and experience working with quantitative data. I inquired how she thought I should cultivate buy-in for a metrics project. Of course her response was to ask a chatbot.

    Here was a woman who knew to answer …

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  • A job for me, part two: good enough

    This is my very, very late submission to April’s IndieWeb Carnival topic. It’s also part two of a reflection on a conversation I had with a neurodivergent designer from Denmark. She asked me: how can I be promoted to the all-star Core Team at work, the one that works across products and teams?

    Here I am.

    When I think about being a neurodivergent1 designer, I think back to 2001, and the math …

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  • Spent the morning at Coffee Company, where a neighborhood acquaintance and I talked about Israel, the war, the protests, the police violence. This afternoon, YouTube gave me an ad of the Israeli contestant of the Eurovision Song Contest saying, in Dutch, that I should vote for her.

  • Sometimes I think about that art criticism professor who told a full lecture hall repeatedly that Asian people would never be able to play Mozart like white people can.

  • A job for me, part one

    Yesterday, as I was going through what seemed like the most severe after-lunch dip in recent memory, I logged on to ADPList to meet a designer from Denmark. It’s miraculous, the effect unexpected kindness can have on the body. After 30 minutes, I skipped out of my meeting booth ready to take on the rest of the afternoon, which I did, and it rocked.

    Here’s a summary of her booking request:

    “My long term goal is to work on broad …

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